1) This could be fine depending on the circumstances. Section 8 of RESPA permits educational activities that are not conditioned on the referral of business and that do not involve the defraying of expenses that otherwise would be incurred by persons in a position to refer settlement services or business. If you are subsidizing the cost they would normally incur for continuing education is would be considered a referral fee. (1024.14(g)(1)(vi))
2) You can’t require the borrower to use any particular provider except an attorney, credit reporting agency, or real estate appraiser. (1024.15(b)(2))